Student leader & She Talks intern Sonya Go on overcoming perfectionism
What do you do for a living, and what are the things that make you feel more alive?
I’m currently a college student taking up a degree in BS in Accountancy. Aside from being a student, I’m also active in an organization inside my college, where I’m currently a college governor. Additionally, I’m an intern for She Talks Asia and Mano Amiga. The things that make me feel more alive are my hobbies and my loved ones. My hobbies like reading and doing yoga and Pilates have made me more inclined to take of myself, making me feel so much alive and energized. My loved ones, such as my family and close friends, continue to inspire me to push myself to be a better version of myself.
How old are you?
I’m currently 20 years old. I’ll be turning 21 this coming February.
What do you think is the biggest challenge, and the best thing, about being your age?
The biggest challenge of being in my 20’s is being patient with myself, especially when it comes to figuring out who I want to be. Options from left to right are being suggested, but at the end of the day, we’re the ones who have the final say to pick and decide who we really want to be because we have the power to make decisions that can make a big impact on our life. Entering my 20s made me realize that everyone has a different definition of success, and pushing too much for perfectionism isn’t the best path to take because if I keep on pushing for perfectionism, I wouldn’t be able to appreciate the whole process of being in a journey that would shape you into who you are meant to be. Life will always go in abrupt directions, and it will always surprise you in more ways than one.
The best thing about being in my 20s is that I have the time to spread my wings and explore. After watching a Ted Talk titled “Why 30 is not the new 20”, I realized that in my twenties is where I should explore, learn, and do things that would make an impact in my future. Spreading my wings may be scary and uncomfortable, but I always remind myself that growth comes from going out of my comfort zone.
How have you grown wiser in the past two years?
These past two years have been filled with opportunities that helped me in my growth, such as learning from my past mistakes and failures. Those mistakes and failures taught me many lessons that shaped me into who I am today because I learned that how I respond to those failures and mistakes is what really matters at the end of the day. To add more, I was also able to reflect and be on a journey of self-discovery after experiencing challenges that made me more resilient and more determined to be my best self, not just for me but also for others.
What are the best pieces of life advice you have ever received?
Throughout the years, I received a lot of advice from loved ones such as my family, mentors, and friends, but here are the top three:
You won’t know the answer if you don’t try. Don’t let your what-if questions be left unanswered. If you really are determined to answer those questions, just try even if the answer wasn’t as you expected it to be. At least you know that you tried, and you answered your what-if question.
Trust and Have faith in God’s timing. We all have our own timeline, so don’t compare yours with others’ timelines. Let go and remember that God will always lead you in the right direction. It may be a journey with ups and downs, but everything has its own purpose.
Quality over Quantity. Whether it comes to relationships or clothes, investing in quality is a better choice. Having large amounts of something is never a good thing. At the end of the day, what really matters is the value, not the volume.
What is your WHY for working with She Talks Asia?
I see this as an opportunity for me to contribute to an organization that continues to inspire women and sparks relevant conversations in our society. Moreover, I want to be able to inspire young women like me that they can turn their dreams into a reality as long as they are willing to try and take steps to fulfill those dreams.
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